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People's Perception of You

  • healingandme
  • Mar 12, 2023
  • 3 min read

Does other people's perception of you affect how you see or treat yourself?


I recently overheard a family member's comment of me. "She won't be making much money in the future because of her personality." Wow. This family member must have witch’s power, able to forecast my future with such certainty. Not even I know what this world has for me in the future. I'm navigating through the fog and this family member already saw my ending.



I know it's hard. It's hard to not care of other people think of ourselves. It's hard to unheard or to not question us after hearing certain comments about ourselves from other people. This is still a skill I am trying to improve.


Some people say things just because of saying. Like having no lock on their mouth, blurting comments out. And there are some people, who are just gossiping. Then, there are people who purposely try to say things to hurt you.


No matter what the reason is. It is important to focus on ourselves and blur out other people in our life. You are the main character in your life, not other people. If people want to say things about you, there will always be a way.


No matter of your age

No matter of your gender.

No matter of your race.

No mater of your physical appearance.

No matter of your career.

No matter of your personality.

No matter what part of the social ladder you are at.

No matter of your love relationship status.

No matter of your asset like house, car or tech device or clothing, etc.


For example, you just became a million or billion. Someone whose family have been rich for two, three generation might label you as upstart or a newly rich person who don't have a deep root. Then, there are the old money who might look down on the people who are only rich for a few generations.


Another example. Person A is successful in their career, single, no college degree, busy. Person B isn't as successful in their career could comment, “Oh, you must be too busy to date. Well, me and my partner is very loving. We appreciate the extra times we have and enjoy love life." Person C who is successful in career but have a college degree could look down on Person A for not having a college degree. Even if Person A have a college degree, someone who have a higher education or from a more famous or Ivy university could still pick on Person A's education background.


I think it's important to be ourselves regardless of how other people think of us. There is no set rule, how we should be and how we should live. Choose what you think is right for you or choose what you want. Be aware and understand. Whatever we choose comes an outcome and consequence. We are responsible for the outcome and consequence because we are the one who made the decision.


Don't blame anyone. Or say there wasn't a choice. Or say other people made you. You made the decision to go other people's way. You made the decision to give up your own value. There is always a way, just that, it may not be a solution to your problem. Not an ideal choice. Not a choice you want to make. May even be worse than going other people's way.




Quote of the day


"Not every comment should be taken seriously."



Comment below: How do you determine if someone's comment is constructive? How do you deal with negative comments? (respond to the other person and your own mental health)



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